Making out is an American term that for young people, applies to kissing, sometimes for a long time and sometimes with passion. Are you worried about getting it wrong the first time you try? Apart from the fact that kissing another person comes very naturally when you care for that person, there are some suggestions here to help you overcome the fear and be confident that you can get it right.
- Get comfortable. Nothing ruins the sense of the occasion than sitting or standing awkwardly. somewhere that you won’t be bothered or stared at. Make sure the place, time and occasion are all right. (Please. Anywhere works…even the basement of a crowded frat house filled with asbestos)
- Take time. Make sure both of you want to be intimate by kissing. Don’t assume that just because you’re dating that you have to make out. Both of you must feel that this is right. (If you’ve been dating for a while and haven’t made out, you may not be dating much longer)
- Hold each other. It is much nicer if you are considerate toward one another and embrace. A hugis always a special start to making out and then you can hold one another in different ways – around the shoulders, across the back or simply a hand pulling his or her face forward. Stroke one another’s hair or face lightly – this adds to the tenderness of the occasion. (awww…)
- Lean in for the kiss. Your partner should respond and lean toward you as well. (If he/she backs away screaming, it might be best to cut your losses right then and there)
- Begin kissing. Gentle kissing on closed lips to begin with is just fine. It might help to keep your eyes closed, allowing you to dive into the ocean of desire. (“The ocean of desire”?!?!?!? This guy has clearly never had a first kiss)
- Test the waters. Making out isn’t normally about discussing what is coming next, so you need to take your clues from how your partner reacts. (I find a football style play chart can be helpful).
- Open your lips. Let your tongue gently slide across your partner’s lips. If he or she doesn’t draw back at this point, you can explore a little further with your tongue, sliding your tongue into your partner’s mouth while continuing to kiss or “peck” him or her. Quickly, if the passion is mutual, your partner will catch on and do the same back to you. (This description makes it sound so romantic, doesn’t it?)
- Make it last. Passion deserves a little time and respect and one should never waste the first time! Add some special touches:
- For girls only: Hold onto his head and slowly and lightly move your hands to the back of his head. Rub your hands through his hair and down his shirt. Grab his biceps if you feel confident and give it a squeeze while kissing him. It will turn him on fast.
- For guys only: Wrap your arms firmly around her and rub up and down her back (or lower back if she responds happily).
- Compliment your partner on how good he or she is at kissing. Not only a confidence booster but probably also a great encouragement for more! (Be careful — it can be hard to talk while kissing)
- Be assured that you can now make out without fear. Once the first time is over, there’s no need to sweat it anymore. After a while try something new exploring new things (You can do it!)
- Make sure to close your eyes while kissing but some eye contact is important to gauge each others’ reactions, so don’t overdo it; use your common sense. (Nothing is creepier than having someone stare at you while they kiss you).
- It’s important to have good dental hygiene, so brush those teeth well beforehand. A little deodorant doesn’t go astray or anything that makes sure that you’re smelling nice. (Please don’t bathe in the Axe Body Spray, unless you want your date to hack up a lung when you’re close by)
- If you going to have sex, or think there is even the slightest chance of it happening bring a condom a good one no five cent condoms, if your partner thinks this is stupid/silly/etc. they are probably not ready for it anyway. (what’s wrong with cheap condoms?)
- It’s a good idea to make a quick bathroom run (if you’re at home) before you make a move for several reasons. You don’t want to have to go to the bathroom in the middle of a good make out session. Another tip is to hide a toothbrush and toothpaste/mouthwash in the nearest bathroom before your date if you’re at your own residence. This allows you to ensure good breath before you swap spit. Going to the bathroom also gives you an excuse to change your position when you get back, allowing you to get closer to your partner to make the first move. (tricky. This guy must have gone to the Frank Costanza school of good moves)
- Girls if you are uncomfortable with a guy going up your shirt and you can feel it starting you can pull his hand away and say “no, not now”. Don’t be afraid to say this. It is supposed to be a good experience for both of you, not just him. (slapping him hard also works, but may ruin your chances of a second date)
- For guys only-if the girl has never made out before you will know. She will come into the kiss slowly and gradually speed up. Make sure you make her feel confident and good about herself.
- Do not go into the kiss too fast and fierce: he or she will not like this unless you have been with each other for a long time and know what the other is like. If not don’t be afraid to take your time and finish big!
- It may not be perfect; because it is your first time. Don’t worry if you make a minor mistake!
- Most of the times, girls talk about their perfect kiss ideas with their friends, GUYS: Try and find out if one of her friends will give you any ideas to make her first kiss perfect! (Warning: Do not ask her friend to demonstrate the perfect kiss on you. That could lead to trouble. Or a three-way)
- Don’t forget to swallow to avoid drowning in saliva or accidentally depositing it in your partner’s mouth. (Nothing ruins the moment like choking on someone else’s spit)
- If the other person is a bad kisser, don’t say anything! If they say something like that to you, respond gently with a short retort such as “You’re not a pro either.” Don’t bother kissing the person again if he or she dismisses you; after all, who wants to kiss someone mean like that? (Just hope they don’t tell the whole school what a bad kisser you are. That could ruin your social life. Its best to practice first on something like a Joey McIntyre poster.)
- Make sure you’re comfortable with it first. It’s not something that everyone knows how to do the first time, and if the other person is a little shy or embarrassed, reassure them that there’s no hurry or pressure.
- If you have a beard, you might like to shave it. Prickly faces can be off-putting to females. (If you have a beard and haven’t made out with anyone yet, you must be the teen-aged male equivalent of me!)
- Make sure that you don’t have anything stuck in your teeth (especially if you have braces)! (This is just a good rule to live by in general)
- Be aware that sometimes, making out can lead to other things. If you don’t feel that you’re ready, don’t be afraid to stand up for yourself and say no to anything that making out might precede. (“Just Say No” is also a good rule to live by)
I want you all to read carefully and try it out this weekend. Let me know how you make out. HA! Get it? Make out?!?